Reasons Men Are More Likely To Fall In Love Harder And Faster Than Women

 

There’s a common misconception women are

crazy, running around looking for men to pour

all our love into, dupe into a relationship and

all but smother with possession and affection.

And men? Men are empty.

Any woman who’s been in a relationship,

however, knows this image of the woman is

completely falsified.

If anything, it’s just another way men have

turned the roles around and tried to trick us

into forgetting the truth. What’s the truth?

Women are the cool, calm and collected ones

and men are the ones declaring their love and

crying for devotion and affection.

According to Marissa Harrison, a psychologist

from Pennsylvania State University, women

are much more cautious when it comes to

love and men have a tendency to fall in —

hard and fast.

In a study published in the Journal of Social

Psychology, Harrison asked 172 college

students if they’d ever been in love.

If participants answered yes, she asked how

long it took them to say “I love you.” Not

surprisingly, men were prone to say it much

faster than women, declaring their love after

just a few weeks compared to women, who

took a few months.

But the real question we have is: Why? Why

are men falling in love faster than women?

Why are the usually emotionless, stone-cold-

repressed-feelings “macho men” of the world

weeping like the star of a Nicholas Sparks

novel?

Why does the one group of people who

professes its callousness and determination to

remain single always end up falling so damn

hard?

For all the women out there who’ve been in a

relationship and witnessed the beautiful and

surprising transformation of a calloused

bachelor into a gushing, love-sick mess, you

already understand why men fall much harder

than women.

They’ve spent their lives suppressing

emotions.

Once a pipe bursts, it’s almost impossible to

stop the flow. Men are the same way.

For years, they’ve been bottling up their

emotions, pushing away any type of maternal

guidance and ignoring their urge for nurture.

Once they get it, however, they can’t live

without it anymore. They’ve let everything out,

and they’ll be damned if they’re going to put

it back in again.

Men are much more territorial than women.

Women may have a harder time with the

chase, but men have a harder time with the

hold. Men may be harder to catch, but once

they’re caught, they’re impossible to shake.

They become territorial over their partners the

same way they once did their independence

and their bachelor pads.

They like to display ownership and power,

while also relinquishing all their emotional

control.

They don’t question their emotions — and they

don’t have their emotions questioned.

Unlike women, who are taught to question

every thought and feeling, men go with their

gut and trust it instinctively. They weren’t

raised to wonder if they’re being “too

emotional” or acting “crazy.”

They don’t have to explain their feelings or

second-guess them because they’ve never

been told those feelings are wrong. Thus,

men don’t second-guess when they’re in love.

They never wonder if those strong feelings of

love are really just lust or their attachment is

really just a temporary lid on a void they’re

looking to fill.

They haven’t experienced this type of

connection before.

Women have close, emotional connections

with one another all the time. The friendship

between women is a very deep and pa

$$ionate one. Men, on the other hand, are

cold and tempered around their friends.

They don’t get deep, emotional or “gushy”

with one another. They don’t tell each other

their innermost secrets and desires, and they

don’t share feelings and advice.

When they finally experience the connection

women expect from every relationship, they

have a hard time letting it go.

They want to be like their dad, but still need

their mom.

You don’t need to be Freud to recognize men

never stop loving their mothers. You can’t

possibly be raised and carried by someone for

so long and then just stop craving that sort of

affection and love.

Men may want to act like the strong, proud

fathers they grew up admiring, but they really

just want to be the little boy who is taken

care of again.

source: elitedaily.com